These words echoed in my mind as I felt the weight of trying to accomplish everything. I was juggling work, home, relationships, healing, and dreams while attempting to hold onto my sanity. I was often told “You’re strong,” which led me to believe strength equated to bearing the world’s burdens. But let's be real: true strength isn’t about sacrificing our well-being for others; I yearned for the freedom to be vulnerable.
In a culture glorifying speed—faster, more, now—we often measure our worth by our productivity, ability to multitask, and reluctance to voice our struggles. Yet, burnout isn’t an accomplishment. Exhaustion isn’t evidence of loyalty. And constant activity doesn’t guarantee growth.
Slowing down is an act of self-care, a sacred necessity, a divine commandment to rest.
To slow down is to create space amidst the chaos. It’s pausing before responding, savoring a long shower, enjoying a cup of tea in silence, or indulging in chocolate in your car before stepping back into your roles. It’s about reclaiming your time, not out of laziness but because your well-being is vital.
When we slow down, we reconnect with our bodies, God, and joy. We allow ourselves to listen—not just to the world, but to our own needs.
Here are a few ways I’m learning to slow down:
- Creating boundaries, even with love. Saying no so I can say yes to God, myself, and my family.
- Honoring my body. If I’m tired, I rest. If I’m overwhelmed, I step away. I have learned I don’t need to “earn” my rest.
- Finding stillness through prayer, reflection, journaling, or simply resting without purpose.
- Letting go of guilt. Slowing down isn’t slacking; it’s a reset, a refueling, a choice of presence over relentless striving.
To every woman reading this: You are entitled to rest. You don’t need permission to pause. Slowing down isn’t falling behind; it’s offering yourself the care you so willingly give to others.
Remember, self-care isn’t always extravagant; sometimes it means doing less, saying no, breathing deeply, and choosing stillness over the demands of achievement.
You deserve a life filled with peace, not just productivity.
With love and care,
Retired Superwoman